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Should We Do Third-Party Readings?

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A third-party reading is one that focuses on someone other than the querent requesting the reading. Usually, a Querent will introduce a third person into a session by asking questions regarding that person’s motives, thoughts, desires, and needs. While these inquiries may seem harmless, there is a danger in trying to provide insight into a third-party’s life and for that reason it may be smart to avoid thrid party readings.

Third-Party Readings from the Querent’s Point of View

It’s important to note that often a Querent asks questions relating to a third-party for several reasons. At the forefront is usually a desire to protect oneself from what is feared the most (think: betrayals, lies, or abandonment). Often the Querent is feeling something in their gut and wants the reader to deny or confirm these feelings. In all honesty, the Querent is not looking to manipulate the third-party. They are only trying to prepare for what may be coming. They are looking for a way to understand what they already know in their heart.

Third-Party Reading from the Tarot Reader’s Point of View

Most Tarot interpreters utilize the Querent’s energy to help to guide the reading. To do so accurately requires some interaction of some kind. For this reason, it is often difficult to read for someone who has not reached out directly. Some questions that may arise will center around ethics. Is it ethical to read for a third-party without consent from that third-party? Are Tarot Interpreters capable of “predicting” how a third-party will behave/think? And how accurately can one determine these things without interacting with the individual? It’s a slippery slope.

So what do we as readers do?

How Do Tarot Interpreters Handle Querent Who Asks for Insight into a Third-Party?

It is possible to conduct a reading that around a third-party without crossing any ethical lines.

What we as readers want to do is to help the Querent understand the ultimate goal/question. To do so, we will assist the Querent to rephrase the question(s), or we can meditate on the actual question as we shuffle our cards.

Your Querent asks:

“Is my boss going to screw me over?”

This question centers the other person, asking the reader to interpret motives and actions from afar. To conduct a proper reading, the reader should help the Querent rephrase the question so that it centers them and not the other party.

More productive questions would be:

  • “Will I be rewarded with a promotion at work?”
  • “What will I need to do to ensure that my job/position is protected?”
  • “What should I be focused on when it comes to my career?’

As you can see these questions allow the energy to stay on the Querent without asking the cards to explain someone else’s actions. But further more phrases the questions this way allows the conversation be more action-based as opposed to just blanket statements about intent and motives.

Here are some other examples:

Querent: Is my mother trying to take all of my money?

  • The real question: Are honesty and truth going to be a continued problem with my mom?

Querent: Does he love me?

  • The real question: Is this relationship the right one for me?

How do you handle third-party issues in your practice?

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